JANE ISKANDER
Jane Iskander is a qualified Occupational Therapist, coach and facilitator based in Essex, England. Working across palliative care, private practice and community spaces, she supports individuals, families and healthcare teams navigating illness, grief, uncertainty and major life transitions.
Jane’s work combines clinical experience with coaching, reflective practice and compassionate conversation, helping people reconnect with meaning, identity and steadiness during difficult periods of life.
Based in Chelmsford and work worldwide online

There are some people whose work cannot be separated from who they are. For me, the line between personal experience and professional purpose has never been rigid.
The way I support others today has been shaped slowly through illness, grief, caregiving, healing and years spent sitting alongside people during some of the most vulnerable moments of their lives.
Through my hospice work, reflective practice sessions, coaching and Death Cafes, I have built my career around conversations many people spend their lives avoiding.
What defines my approach is warmth, honesty and a deep respect for human complexity. I don’t speak about resilience as something polished or heroic, instead, I understand it as something quieter, built through connection, support and the willingness to keep showing up even when life changes beyond recognition.
Whether guiding healthcare teams carrying emotional exhaustion, supporting someone adjusting to a diagnosis or facilitating open conversations around death and meaning, I focus less on fixing and more on helping people feel less alone.
I qualified as an Occupational Therapist in 2005, but long before that, my understanding of illness and vulnerability had already begun to take shape. In my early twenties, I was given a life changing diagnosis that altered how I saw myself and the world around me.
That period became one of the defining experiences of my life. It exposed me not only to uncertainty and fear, but also to the power of emotional support and practical compassion. The steady presence of family and friends became a foundation I still speak about with gratitude.
Some of the most shaping challenges in my life have been my own health experiences from a young age, including receiving a life changing diagnosis in my early 20s. What got me through that time was the support around me, my amazing parents and friends, their positivity, steady and practical support and belief that I would be ok.
Rather than separating my personal experiences from my professional identity, I allowed them to deepen my understanding of what people often need most during difficult times. I came to recognise that healthcare is not only about treatment plans and physical care. It is also about identity, fear, hope, relationships and the emotional disorientation that illness can create.
Alongside the diagnosis, I also experienced significant losses within my family and friendship circles. These experiences did not lead me toward simple answers or neatly packaged lessons. Instead, they taught me that grief is something people learn to carry rather than conquer.
Over time, I became increasingly interested in the ways mindset, language and therapeutic approaches could support emotional wellbeing and self-management, this curiosity led me into further training, including NLP to Master Practitioner level, advanced communication, Level 5 ILM Coaching and Mentoring, reflective practice and arts therapies. These additional pathways expanded the way I worked with people, moving me beyond a purely practical model of occupational therapy into something even more holistic and relational.
As my career evolved, so did my understanding of what meaningful support looks like. Working in palliative care brought me face to face with the conversations many professionals struggle to navigate openly. I spent years supporting people approaching the end of life while also working closely with families experiencing anticipatory grief, emotional overwhelm and difficult decisions.
Is this actually about receiving a life changing/life limiting diagnosis, more than Hospices?
In hospice environments, many of the usual distractions of life fade into the background. People often lose focus of daily life and things that matter most, the people they love, what gives life meaning and how they want to live the time they have.
These experiences reinforced my belief that people need spaces where the less easy emotions can exist without being brushed away or solved immediately. This understanding later became central to my work facilitating reflective practice groups and local Death Cafes.
Since 2016, I have voluntarily helped create environments where people can speak openly about mortality, loss and the realities of being human. In a culture that often avoids these conversations, I believe there is something deeply healing about simply allowing them to happen honestly and without judgement.
Emotional steadiness is not about pretending life feels manageable all the time. It is about recognising support, asking for help when needed and finding ways to regain perspective during periods of uncertainty.
Human connection matters. Not as a slogan or abstract idea, but as something practical and life sustaining.
My work sits across several interconnected spaces. I continue to work clinically within palliative care while also working independently, focused on reflective practice, coaching and therapeutic conversations for individuals, professionals and teams.
My approach is rooted in values rather than rigid systems. Honesty, compassion, dignity and service, guide the way I work with people.

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